Dr. Udis Lord, Ph.D., Teaches the Responsibilities of a Virtuous, Benevolent Parent

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                Dr. Udis Lord, Ph.D., Teaches the Responsibilities of a Virtuous, Benevolent Parent
February  8, 2015, St. Louis, MO)  Dr. Udis Lord, Ph.D., the author of  Dr. Lord’s Virtuous Teenage Parenting writes about the responsibilities of a virtuous, benevolent parent.
                “When a citizen can handle freedom and responsibility, let him have freedom; when a citizen  is not ready to handle freedom and responsibility, teach him first,” Analects 8.9. That is Confucius’ idea of how much freedom to give the citizens of a country.
                A virtuous parent can apply that same idea in deciding how much freedom to give a teenager.
               Another responsibility of a virtuous parent is to serve as a good role model to his children. Confucius writes, “If rulers are proper in their own conduct, subjects will follow suit without need of command.  But if they are not proper, even when they command, others will  not obey,” Analects, 13.6.
                A benevolent parent gains his childrens’ trust, so that when he ask s them to act morally, they will not think that he is asking them to act morally just to mistreat them, but that in so doing, he is guiding them towards the righteous path of life.
                Again, in the words of Confucius, “A benevolent person will only ask subjects to work hard after  gaining their trust.  Without trust, the people will only think that they are being mistreated,” Analects, 19.10.
                Recognizing children when they act virtuously is another responsibility of a benevolent, virtuous parent. This can be in the form of giving more privileges to those who act virtuously than those who fail to act virtuously.  This is one way of gaining the loyalty of other children who will see that their parent is fair and just in handing rewards and privileges.   As a result, this will motivate them to act virtuously as well.
                As  Confucius  said, “Raise up the true and place them over the crooked, and the allegiance of the people will be yours.”
                A benevolent parent as a ruler of a family must demonstrate these five wonders as described  in  Analects, 20.2:
1.Be generous in benefiting your subject, but do not be extravagant.
2. Make your subject work hard, but do not incur ill will.
3. Desire for benevolence, not power.
4. Be poised, but not arrogant.
5.  Be  dignified, but not fierce. 
                Dr. Lord concludes, “Those are the qualities of a  virtuous, benevolent parent.”
                For further information on parenting,  read Dr. Lord’s Teenage Parenting that is available at www.drudislord.com
                Dr. Lord is available as a speaker and for media interview.