For Immediate Release
Virtues of Effective Parenting
(February 7, 2015, St. Louis, MO) A virtue is a general moral excellence that is achieved by thinking the right thoughts; therefore, doing the right actions that are based on goodness or morality.
Parents, being the first teacher of their child have a moral responsibility to live a virtuous life. There are three virtues that parents must root into their soul in order to be able to raise children with moral virtues: benevolence, wisdom and courage.
Benevolence means respectfulness, forgiveness, trustworthiness, diligence and generosity. A benevolent parent does not hesitate to admit his mistakes and make the necessary corrections. He acts with sincere intention and not manipulation. He practices self-control. Thus, when a benevolent parent’s child does something wrong, he helps the child understand why it is wrong and helps the child figure out how to solve the problems his mistake created.
A benevolent parent is firm, determined, honest and deliberate. He is determined to be the best possible parent that he could be. He is honest with himself. He is careful about what he says to his child. He strives for harmony and not sameness. Therefore, he recognizes the generation gap between him and his child.
A benevolent parent loves and expresses his genuine love to his child in all possible ways. He dislikes the bad things his child does, but still genuinely loves his child. He does not let his anger hinder this love.
A benevolent parent always remembers to treat his child the way he wants to be treated in his old age.
Wisdom in a virtues parent knows when to remove himself from the aggravating child and waits until things settles down before he explains to the child that what he did is wrong and that society and the law will not tolerate that behavior. Age appropriate consequences may be used to teach the child not to do in the future what he did that is wrong.
Dr. Lord concludes, “Most of all, a virtues parent has the courage not to hurt his child.”
For further information on virtuous parenting, read Dr. Lord’s Virtuous Parenting, that is available at www.drudislord.com.